Winning always

December 26, 2010

During my 5 years of battle against legal terrorism, I have been contacted by hundreds of people in distress.

Most “498A victims” who approach me or any other helpline for that matter, do so because it only costs them a phone call to get free advice, and they have nothing to lose. Some have even “taken the pains” to meet me personally at the weekly group meeting with the eternal “what-do-I-lose” attitude.

One thing that is common to almost ALL victims is that they don’t really seek help. They just seek confirmation of their false hopes, beliefs and assumptions. They¬† also want to test out the remote possibility that I might have that special magic spell (that their lawyer doesn’t seem to have) which will make all their problems go away overnight. Once they realize I don’t have what they came looking for, they get disillusioned. Some are even disgruntled to the point that they question the presence of a helpline or organization which cannot help them.

Very few persons actually hang around long enough to learn and have fun playing and working consistently to achieve small victories which eventually add up and turn them from a “victim” into a “victor”.

Every victim who thinks that theirs is just a legal battle also assumes that if they hire the “best” lawyer in town “victory” is guaranteed. In fact, most victims approach me asking to be hooked up with a “good lawyer” since they are not satisfied with the one they have. If only they could realize that the solution to their problems lies in changing their attitude and approach and not so much in changing lawyers! That brings me to today’s little lesson.

One of the secrets of winning the battle against legal terrorism is to understand that the legal part comprises just 5-10 percent of the battle. 90-95 percent of the battle is psychological and social. If you win the latter, you will win the former without fail.

Frank Abagnale Sr.: You know why the Yankees always win, Frank?
Frank Abagnale, Jr.: ‘Cause they have Mickey Mantle?
Frank Abagnale Sr.: No, it’s ’cause the other teams can’t stop staring at those damn pinstripes.