Winning always

December 26, 2010

During my 5 years of battle against legal terrorism, I have been contacted by hundreds of people in distress.

Most “498A victims” who approach me or any other helpline for that matter, do so because it only costs them a phone call to get free advice, and they have nothing to lose. Some have even “taken the pains” to meet me personally at the weekly group meeting with the eternal “what-do-I-lose” attitude.

One thing that is common to almost ALL victims is that they don’t really seek help. They just seek confirmation of their false hopes, beliefs and assumptions. They  also want to test out the remote possibility that I might have that special magic spell (that their lawyer doesn’t seem to have) which will make all their problems go away overnight. Once they realize I don’t have what they came looking for, they get disillusioned. Some are even disgruntled to the point that they question the presence of a helpline or organization which cannot help them.

Very few persons actually hang around long enough to learn and have fun playing and working consistently to achieve small victories which eventually add up and turn them from a “victim” into a “victor”.

Every victim who thinks that theirs is just a legal battle also assumes that if they hire the “best” lawyer in town “victory” is guaranteed. In fact, most victims approach me asking to be hooked up with a “good lawyer” since they are not satisfied with the one they have. If only they could realize that the solution to their problems lies in changing their attitude and approach and not so much in changing lawyers! That brings me to today’s little lesson.

One of the secrets of winning the battle against legal terrorism is to understand that the legal part comprises just 5-10 percent of the battle. 90-95 percent of the battle is psychological and social. If you win the latter, you will win the former without fail.

Frank Abagnale Sr.: You know why the Yankees always win, Frank?
Frank Abagnale, Jr.: ‘Cause they have Mickey Mantle?
Frank Abagnale Sr.: No, it’s ’cause the other teams can’t stop staring at those damn pinstripes.


Pump fake

December 25, 2010

Everyday, I come across people struck by 498a and the entire menu or a subset of accompanying civil and criminal provisions.

Persons who otherwise consider themselves highly intelligent, academically accomplished and professionally successful suddenly realize that all their intellectual prowess, social and professional contacts are rendered ineffective when they need them the most.

Most of them are way too shaken to dig themselves out of the muck. They are way too demoralized and emotional to use their head. The law enforcement and judicial system being completely loaded against them does not help the process of healing or fighting back. As a result, they succumb to blackmail and extortion.

When I tell people to fight back, they ask me how. While any strategy should be developed based on the variable circumstances of the case, there are certain basic principles one has to follow in the “Art of War” against legal terrorists. In the interest of those who really want to learn I will try to post some lessons I learned during my own battles.

One such basic principle is called a “pump fake” in sports, and it is illustrated below:


Present Status

July 23, 2009

The present status of the cases is as below:

Criminal Case U/s 498A of IPC –

We have one more witness to go – the Investigating Officer. The two main witnesses, the mother and daughter duo, were a sight to behold when they took the stand and listened to themselves speaking blatant lies under oath. I wish them good sleep for the rest of their lives!

Divorce filed by Pappu Malathi in the Family Court:

All of Pappu Malathi’s witnesses have given their testimony and have been cross-examined. The mother’s cross-examination was a treat because it was held in open court instead of the advocate’s commission.

My brother’s petition seeking interim maintenance U/s 24 of HMA was set aside for orders a year ago, with no further progress. Had a woman filed for maintenance, she would have been granted interim maintenance immediately irrespective of how well off she is already.

Three perjury petitions had been filed on Pappu Malathi. The first one was admitted, hearing completed and orders pending for several months. The other two perjury petitions have been filed against all 5 witnesses including herself.

Pappu Malathi and her folks managed to appeal to anybody (including chaprasis) that would listen to them in the court to tell them how we are “harassing” them with new cases. Pappu Malathi was also caught rushing out of the court room and crying her eyes out standing under a tree in the Criminal Court complex. This was quite unusual since, earlier, like most 498A women, she shed crocodile tears INSIDE the court. After the genuine crying session under the tree, she seems to have had an epiphany, and her courage seems to have jumped up one notch, and the last time she was seen in Family Court laughing triumphantly, expressing her happiness for not being punished for uttering blatant lies all the time. Someone comes to court to force a quick divorce and obtain fat alimony, but is now just happy not to be punished for perjury (just because she is a woman) after 1 yr and 8 months of running around courts! This is what one calls, PERSPECTIVE.

It waits to be seen what the judge will decide to do with the legal terrorist/perjurer when the rule of thumb in today’s world is “protect the guilty and punish the innocent”.

I wish everyone who is supporting the legal terrorists good sleep for the rest of their lives!