January 8, 2011

Most people lose even before the game begins because they have resigned themselves to their “fate”. Many lose because they give up quite early on in the game. Many others lose because they act in a frenzy and cannot get their moves together, because of having a bad coach, having too many coaches or being a bad student.

The common feature of all losers though is that they lack the one characteristic which is crucial in this game – PATIENCE.


The Edge

December 30, 2010

Ask any 498A victim to list his enemies and he will name his (ex)wife, in-laws, anti-male laws, law enforcement, lawyers, judiciary, feminists,…and the list can go on.

Most victims forget to name, or have never identified two crucial enemies, which should in fact be on the top of the list:

1) Fear
2) Frozen mind

It’s important to understand that with these two enemies residing within you, no amount of legal guidance will help you get through your problems.

If you deal with these two enemies at the right time and in the right way, you’ll have the edge, and you’ll cut through any problem like it’s a piece of cake.

Why is he (the rabbit) unafraid? Because he is smarter than the panther.

Charles Morse: You know, I once read an interesting book which said that, uh, most people lost in the wilds, they, they die of shame.
Stephen: What?
Charles Morse: Yeah, see, they die of shame. “What did I do wrong? How could I have gotten myself into this?” And so they sit there and they… die. Because they didn’t do the one thing that would save their lives.
Robert Green: And what is that, Charles?
Charles Morse: Thinking.

A Tryst With Destiny

December 28, 2010

On 28-29 December 2005, exactly 5 years ago, I made a tryst with destiny. Today, I am proud to say, I redeemed my pledge almost in full measure.

It was on the night of 28 December that my brother and I were taken into custody by the police and illegally detained in Saroornagar Police Station at the behest of Pappu Malathi and her entourage of legal terrorists.

At the stroke of the midnight hour (29 December), as the world slept, I was awake to the threat to my freedom and life as I knew it.

A moment comes, which comes but rarely in history, when we step out from the old to the new, when an age ends, and when the soul of a nation, long suppressed, finds utterance. It was at that solemn moment that I took the pledge of dedication to make the night count – for myself, my family and my country – and to fight against legal terrorism.

Through good and ill fortune alike, I never lost sight of that quest, nor forgot the ideals which gave me strength. I end today, a period of personal legal battles, and I discover myself again.  The achievement I celebrate today is but a step, an opening of opportunity to the greater triumphs and achievements that await me in the larger war against legal terrorism.

(Note: I seek the indulgence of my readers for having taken most lines straight out of the original speech by Jawaharlal Nehru, since there is no better way to say this).

Winning always

December 26, 2010

During my 5 years of battle against legal terrorism, I have been contacted by hundreds of people in distress.

Most “498A victims” who approach me or any other helpline for that matter, do so because it only costs them a phone call to get free advice, and they have nothing to lose. Some have even “taken the pains” to meet me personally at the weekly group meeting with the eternal “what-do-I-lose” attitude.

One thing that is common to almost ALL victims is that they don’t really seek help. They just seek confirmation of their false hopes, beliefs and assumptions. They  also want to test out the remote possibility that I might have that special magic spell (that their lawyer doesn’t seem to have) which will make all their problems go away overnight. Once they realize I don’t have what they came looking for, they get disillusioned. Some are even disgruntled to the point that they question the presence of a helpline or organization which cannot help them.

Very few persons actually hang around long enough to learn and have fun playing and working consistently to achieve small victories which eventually add up and turn them from a “victim” into a “victor”.

Every victim who thinks that theirs is just a legal battle also assumes that if they hire the “best” lawyer in town “victory” is guaranteed. In fact, most victims approach me asking to be hooked up with a “good lawyer” since they are not satisfied with the one they have. If only they could realize that the solution to their problems lies in changing their attitude and approach and not so much in changing lawyers! That brings me to today’s little lesson.

One of the secrets of winning the battle against legal terrorism is to understand that the legal part comprises just 5-10 percent of the battle. 90-95 percent of the battle is psychological and social. If you win the latter, you will win the former without fail.

Frank Abagnale Sr.: You know why the Yankees always win, Frank?
Frank Abagnale, Jr.: ‘Cause they have Mickey Mantle?
Frank Abagnale Sr.: No, it’s ’cause the other teams can’t stop staring at those damn pinstripes.

Pump fake

December 25, 2010

Everyday, I come across people struck by 498a and the entire menu or a subset of accompanying civil and criminal provisions.

Persons who otherwise consider themselves highly intelligent, academically accomplished and professionally successful suddenly realize that all their intellectual prowess, social and professional contacts are rendered ineffective when they need them the most.

Most of them are way too shaken to dig themselves out of the muck. They are way too demoralized and emotional to use their head. The law enforcement and judicial system being completely loaded against them does not help the process of healing or fighting back. As a result, they succumb to blackmail and extortion.

When I tell people to fight back, they ask me how. While any strategy should be developed based on the variable circumstances of the case, there are certain basic principles one has to follow in the “Art of War” against legal terrorists. In the interest of those who really want to learn I will try to post some lessons I learned during my own battles.

One such basic principle is called a “pump fake” in sports, and it is illustrated below:



August 1, 2010

In two words: EARN IT!!!

Here’s a respectable and admirable way in which a mother-daughter duo started with Rs. 500 and made Rs. 25 lakhs:

Shobha Warrier in Chennai

Two years back when her daughter Denise asked Cheryl Huffton to quit her job as a school teacher of 16 years to start her own enterprise, she was shocked and more than a little worried.

After several fights and lots of tears, the daughter convinced her mother to launch their own enterprise.

Dream Weavers started with just Rs 500 and a lot of dreams. Dream Weaver makes eco-friendly textiles. They design and make bras, panties, aprons, and other items used in spas, beauty parlours, et cetera, using eco-friendly disposable material. These are for one-time use.

They have also plans to design and make gowns and other operation theatre supplies needed in hospital on the same material.

Cheryl and Denise are also event mangers. The enterprise had a turnover of Rs 12 lakh (Rs 1.2 million) last year, which has now burgeonedto Rs 25 lakh (Rs 2.5 million). Now, the new entrepreneurs’ dream is to capture the international market.

Here is their unusual story in Cheryl’s words and how they made it:

Dream Weavers can be contacted on email at or on telephone at 91 96001 53022

To read the complete story click HERE!


July 31, 2010


BMW X1 at Rs 25 lakhs in India, launch by Dec 2010

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